Some one recently asked me “How I handle things around family, friends and in vanilla public.”
I will start with my daily examples and advice I have for others.
My little boy doesn’t call me mommy in vanilla public. For a long time, I was uncomfortable being called mommy at all. I associated mommy with adult babies and people who are clingy and whiny. I did not have any positive affiliations with the concept at all.
For me, I only started being called mommy, after I adopted my little boy. It’s a special term between me and my little boy only. In the beginning of our relationship and in vanilla public, my little boy calls me “The pretty lady” He does call me mommy at home and in kinky events, such as play parties.
But I have always been a momma dom. Not identifying as a mommy, doesn’t make me less of a mother. I have always said this about my self: I am both the wicked step mother and the fairy godmother.
My mommy side expressed it self more through the governess and teacher archetypes. For along time, I was known as Miss Marie. Mommy is an archetype in both the ageplay and leather community and it expresses it’s self through a variety of lenses.
Many people on fet-life mentioned clothing as a way of creating an ageplay headspace.
On a daily basis, I wear mary janes and I some times wear my hair in braids or pig tails. In the winter, I wear my tinker bell and disney hoodies on a daily basis. During the summer, I might wear sundresses with knee socks, and mary janes. Very few people question my clothing. If they do, they just think I am in touch with my inner child. I rarely get a second glance. (and I am 32)
My little boy is 34 and he is an avid fan of Walt Disney World. On a regular basis, he wears a variety of disney t-shirts and sweat shirts. In his feminine persona, angelica, she wears cute little dresses with mary janes and frilly panties when ever she has the opportunity
A few people from fetlife have also mentioned scents. I have a few different perfumes I like, one of them is called Amazing Grace and makes any one smell as if they just got out of the bubble bath. They also have one called pure grace, that smells like a soapy shower. The even one have one called, baby grace. There are a variety of baby lotions that can also be worn as a subtle cue those who are interested.
Another woman mentioned food, it can be fun to have kids food stocked in the kitchen such as macaroni and cheese and peanut butter and jelly sandwiches. Chicken fingers and poptarts are also an option.
If you have a high shelf that is less accessible, you can have sippy cups and baby bottles. I also have disney princess and mickey mouse silver wear that can be found at any local grocery. My unusual silver wear has been more of an issue for people who consider “ageplay” a hard limit, than it has been for any family member or friend.
On a monthly basis, I cosponsor The Atlanta Littles Munch. After each munch, we go to an arcade, toy store, kid’s movie or ice cream shop as a group of littles and bigs. I haven’t had any reasons to be concerned or worried.